Posts Tagged ‘save my marriage

Because most men are intrinsically strong and tough, emotionally if not physically, women frequently take that for granted and expect them to be invincible. Intrinsically? Yes. Although a boy can be influenced by words such as, “Boys don’t cry,” if he’s normal and healthy, he’ll learn as he matures, that the don’t-cry syndrome actually is part of his very nature.

Mark became furious when his wife, Mindy, had an affair. “He’s a jerk!” Mark fumed. That “jerk” was doing the things for her that Mark used to do before they were married. Mr. Jerk made Mindy feel beautiful, desirable and loved. Mark was very much in love with his wife. Unfortunately the only time he showed her that side was when he was in the mood for sex. Even then it was nothing much but raw passion. He wasn’t able to save his marriage.

One of the most successful businessmen in the world is notoriously unsuccessful at marriage. Donald Trump has consistently failed at marriage while he excels at making money and building his empire. He only cares about saving his relationship with what he truly loves – building, acquiring things, and accumulating riches. Brilliant in business, he has built a financial empire worth billions despite several bankruptcies.

I was reading in an advice column recently the lament of a man who asked, “Why do girls go for the bad guys?” He was a good guy, according to what he said. He treated women politely, brought them flowers and generally respected them. Then along comes a charmer who does just the opposite and wins the girl the good guy is hoping to attract.

A marriage counselor in our area was talked about passionately throughout an entire page of our newspaper recently. The reporter was wound up because this woman counselor said basically: Go ahead – quarrel! Yell at each other! Get angry! Fight! It will strengthen your marriage.

Alexis’s rise in her company was fairly rapid given the glass ceiling atmosphere that permeated it. Alexis lived the life many women only dream of: A great job, a beautiful home, three really nice kids and a loving, attentive husband – or so it seemed. She came to us at the point that her marriage had crumbled and the faade was destroyed.

“I love my husband and want to share things with him; but he turns cold and refuses to listen or talk. Why?”

When he was introduced to Hailey, Ryan knew that she was the one. She wasn’t as gorgeous as a few he’d known, but that was all right. She was attractive, intelligent, and easy to get along with. She admired and respected him, too.

Charlotte was heartbroken. Her wedding was two weeks away and her guy had called it off. She begged him to come back, but he wouldn’t hear of it. It was too late to save the wedding she had planned for years. Humiliating notes of regret had to be sent to guests along with dozens of wedding gifts. A lot of money had been spent on a beautiful gown and all that goes with it as well as service providers that refused to return down payments.

Some people feel that if they never live with someone outside of marriage, it’s okay to divorce if their expectations aren’t met and then get married to someone else. Modern culture has created a throw away attitude to marriage and difficult relationships. If the second marriage is a bummer, then how about a third – and then a fourth and so on?