Every so often, a man waits at the last moment to realize that he is not ready to get married. Staring at the walls of the church, his mouth went bone dry and he was all sweaty, while he tried to figure out why he had agreed to let someone else make the most important decision in his life.

Could I run away? I did not think so. The reason why was sitting at the front pew, wearing her new red dress, smiling widely and bending her silvery black head to chat unintelligibly to her neighbor. Excited, happy, and not a little exhausted with what all these Herculean efforts to arrange her eldest son’s wedding; my mother.

Exhaling a mournful sigh, I earned a look from the priest and a teasing poke (ouch!) from the best man, my brother. Even without turning around, I could see his grin. “Wait till it is your turn,” I muttered to myself.

It was not that I was against the institution of marriage. It was not that I was not attracted to my wife-to-be, albeit ours was an arranged match. I did. I just felt as a young energetic thirty year old, I still wanted my freedom. Needless to say, I did not suffer from any Bridget Jones-like complex. My fiance and I have discussed extensively and we agreed to remain unattached as long as possible. But Mother changed her mind with the all powerful warning, “Time and tide wait for no one”. Honestly, the truth be told, I was not a little apprehensive of major changes.

Sometimes I did ask myself why I gave in to Mother. But I knew I wanted her to be happy. And she would not be happy until she saw me married and settled down, preferably with a few grandchildren on the way.

I knew it was too late to back out. Everything in the past few months was arranged down to the last excruciating detail, all in a bewildering whirlwind presided over by our indomitable matriarch. The wedding themes at the church and at the lavish banquet tonight were major headaches – especially the exasperating photo-taking sessions where we pasted perpetual smiles. Later we required WEEKS of shopping for wedding supplies such as the wines, the menus, the decorations, the flowers, the ribbons, the bridal car. the list went on and on. Not to mention the cake! My parents and in-laws actually devoted half an hour (imagine that!) just to choose from the endless arrays of wedding cake toppers. Why on earth would people need cakes for wedding I could never fathom the reason. And if they do, which of the guests would actually admire the cake toppers?

You are right, dear. Nobody notices them if they are there, but if they are not, then EVERYBODY will notice. Trust me, I am experienced.”

Could I argue with such flawless logic? Mother, as usual, had her way.

Wedding dresses are made to be worn once in a lifetime for a girl. But the price would sometime be equal to how much you would spend for clothes in a year or maybe two which is absurd

He never thought that a dress would cost a fortune. It’s not like she’s going to wear it everyday!

Nonetheless, when the groom sees his bride for the first time in the ceremony, he would forget about all the troubles he went through. He might even feel excited.

A man is usually awed by the beauty of his bride. Only at that moment do they realize why the real reason why they had agreed to the whole thing.

Three steps away, she lifted her gaze to me. I saw the uncertainty and doubt in her shining eyes replaced by calm tranquility. That singular moment transformed my entire life. In a flash of understanding, I saw that she was giving her life, her trust, her love to me. and how could I return any less?

He took her hand as a sign of a new beginning. They will be joined forever.

I had the answer now. A prayer rose in my heart as we turned to face the holy presence. I would protect her and cherish her. I would share her ups and downs, and share mine. There would be times we would be together, and times we would be separate. But we would respect each other’s space and feelings. We would quarrel, yes, maybe over the smallest things, but we would work it out and make it up. We would be a family – we would have adorable children, we would learn and grow together towards our shared future together.

The only thing that a couple need is love and when they realize that they have it they will feel very lucky indeed.

At that instance, the word I do came straight from his heart.

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