In the dating world of today, it seems to me that most guys get a bad rap. We’re quick to label them as cheaters, players or big babies. While there are undoubtedly a percentage of men who fit these labels, it seems to be almost forgotten that there are also good guys out there looking to meet someone to spend their lives with.

When it comes to internet dating, there are probably just as many guys as there are available women. Perhaps it’s time to give some of them a second look. And while we’re at it we should modify the views that society has inflicted on us.

The majority of men and women want to share their life with someone. They want the benefits of having a loving relationship. It’s not surprising considering the statistics; happily married people live longer than their single counterparts. Men and women reap equal benefits when they share their lives.

Men may not be a vocal as women about falling in love and settling down. They usually don’t mention the ticking of their biological clock. But there are plenty of them out there wondering if they’ll ever meet that someone special.

Men may seem to date around longer, but it is because they want to find that special girl. They want the woman who is sexy and turns them on but they also love that friend that they can hang out with and have fun. This combination in a woman takes time to find and won’t be detected until they have spent some quality time getting to know someone.

I hold to the belief that most men usually know if they want to marry someone. Heck a lot of them know when they plan to marry. But just because they want to get married doesn’t mean they’re going to settle down with an insecure woman who’s hell-bent on getting to the altar in quick time.

This is not to say any woman should stick around after years and years of never knowing if the relationship will go to the next level but there is that balance of being comfortable as the relationship naturally progresses. A long lasting loving relationship more than likely takes a few years to develop and grow.

As always, communication is key. The more you and your date talk, the more you’ll know. And the more you know the easier it will be to decide if this is the guy you want to settle down with.

Though your past experiences with bad boys may make you reluctant to keep an open mind, it’s important to remember that the good guys are out there. Being as open minded as possible to finding him will likely mean that he’ll find you first.