There is so much information about dating and internet dating out there. Everyone is an expert. Have you noticed though most of the advice is all doom and gloom. How to avoid this disaster, how to recognise that scam. It can’t be that hard, all you are doing after all is trying to meet someone.

As such, in this article I am going to try and give you some internet dating tips that make things easy again. After all, it should be fun, not scary or confusing. So here are my top 3 top internet dating tips:

Tip 1. Make a plan. You need to understand two things before you can make your plan. You need to understand the kind of person you are looking for. You also need to be aware of the type of experience you are looking for with that person.

Many people are full of advice about what you want, what type of people are right for you and what experiences are ok to have. The problem is that these people’s opinions more reflect what is right for them, not what is right for you. So if you listen to them rather than yourself, you are starting your dating process by looking for a date and experience that is suitable for someone else.

Listen to yourself, and be true to yourself. You’ll be ok. Specific dates and relationships may not work, but this is your journey to have, they are your mistakes and successes to have, they are your experiences to learn from, laugh and cry about.

My second tip addresses the dating site you join. You’ve done your thinking, you know what you want, so join the niche dating sites that specifically address the qualities you are looking for. That’s what they are there for, to pre-qualify people so you don’t waste your time.

If you know who you are looking for and join up at a regular dating site, you are going to have to deal with all the people you don’t want to meet, before you find the people you do want to meet. All those profiles and emails you will have to waste time on. Why bother when you can cut many people you do not want to meet out of the equation, simply by joining a website which has already done it for you. For example, if you want to meet someone of christian faith, you can join a christian dating site and not deal with non-christians. If you love Asian culture and that is high on your list, join an Asian dating site. If you are looking for a fast paced steamy experience, an adult dating site is the answer. Or a more sophisticated experience, maybe a site which caters to the wealthy is the one for you. Each of these niche dating sites appeal to a certain type of person and experience and filters out others. This should make your life easier.

Tip 3. Put safety first in all cases. Remember you do not know a person until you’ve spent time getting to know them. Email/Chat/Webcam just doe not cut it. When you meet someone for the first time, treat it like a blind date. Ie. Do it in a public place and have friends ready to “rescue” you.

Never give anyone more than you want to give them, if there is a question in your mind about it. Don’t give them your email address, don’t give them your phone number, don’t give them your time. Trust is something that a new person in your life has to earn. You’ll know yourself when they have earned it so only progress your dating as that trust is built and you have more confidence that you trust will be honoured and nurtured.

After that first meeting you are no longer internet dating, so your experience should progress along the same lines as any developing relationship.

Hopefully that will help with your internet dating experience. Remember, for greater success, keep it simple, specific and safe. Good luck.