Finished with your guy? Want to desperately get guy back? Then you’re going to have to use a strategy that will help you get him back and not cause him to head for the hills!

Firstly remember that just because you want him back it doesn’t mean that he wants to come back. If you’ve broken up before and your relationship has become a breakup/makeup merry go round, pretty soon one or both of you will want to one day get off that particular ride for good. So, there is a chance that he might have reached this point, no matter what you now feel and want.

You should also look at the relationship you had as a whole and not just the best parts of the relationship. You should also look at the downside of the relationship. This way, you can begin to look at things differently and not just certain parts of it that you like. This new perspective can also point out things that need to be changed.

If you need outside third party help to scrutinize your relationship, then it’s always worthwhile getting that help. If you have good and honest friends who will tell you what you need to hear, as opposed to what you want to hear, then talk to them.

You should also understand that to pull this off you’re going to have to stop acting on whim and emotion and start working a well thought out proven plan. This is probably the most crucial step you will need to take, so get yourself under control. Sit down and plan to do whatever it takes to stop yourself running around making things worse ” stop calling him, texting him and trying to force him to see you because begging and pleading won’t work.

To stop the urge of leaving several phone and text messages, you should keep yourself busy. Go out and have fun. Head to the gym or take some classes to make your mind busy and not think of the breakup.

Take your time to make up reasons why you want him to come back. Many other individuals who have separated and then made up but their relationship will only last for weeks because they will then be discovering that they were together for the wrong reasons. Find reasonable reasons why you want him back.

If you think getting back is the right thing to do, then you will have to call him and send an invitation to meet up.

Understand that he may very well need more time before he is ready to speak to you never mind, entertain the idea of rekindling your relationship. Your goal, if this happens, is not to force the situation. Instead, tell him that you understand completely and then tell him you will give him more time to think things through. Leave it at that and continue living your life and keeping yourself busy.